Sleeping black father and daughter

Black Fatherhood, pt. II

In addition to my initial post, there are many that view not having a child as an accomplishment. As a badge of honor. As not being part of some “statistic.” Childbirth is condemned. In fact, several would rather abort the fruit of their womb than deal with the shame incurred from society. I have argued with feminists extensively on this matter. Majority of them resort to a myriad of readied obtuse rationalizations in regards to when the child is considered a human or they repeat ad nauseam the many excuses as to why women decide to have abortions (i.e. financial instability, an indifferent or reluctant father, deflated ego(s) of mom/dad, wasn’t the sex they were hoping for, “not the right time,” or simply because it is “their body”).

To question any of these reasons is akin to blasphemy according to feminists and the liberal left. You are automatically labeled a misogynist chauvinist pig for wanting your women to be much more considerate of life. Considering that black women are 5 times more likely to terminate their pregnancy, I think my concerns are legitimate. Especially when a large segment of our population is killed and imprisoned at highly disproportionate rates by law enforcement as standard operating procedure with little to no consequences.

Some have even adamantly asserted that children become human once they are birthed. As laughable as that is, people sincerely believe this. Such rationalization is nothing more than cognitive bias to justify their selfishness. 

Much to my dismay, I have been told of a few instances where the mother had aborted a child simply because they were holding grudges against the father. Killing a child to get back at a man for some marginal issue is not only trifling. It is fucking sick. 

“The Negro cannot win if he is willing to sacrifice the futures of his children for immediate personal comfort and safety. How can the “Dream” survive if we murder the children? Every aborted baby is like a slave in the womb of his or her mother. The mother decides his or her fate.” – Martin Luther King Jr. 

My moral compass IS NOT driven by religious zeal or political affiliation. My moral integrity is that of my own, forged from my cultural experiences.

With that being said, I am not dogmatic regarding the issue of abortion. I can understand the cognitive dissonance that can accompany being pregnant; especially if the conception is a product of rape. To be concise however, I do agree with abortion in certain situations. For example, if there are serious health complications with either the child or the mother that would result in death for either or both, I would consider it appropriate. But to murder a child (let’s call it what it is) because you don’t want to take care of it is definitively ludicrous. There are a lot of people I don’t necessarily enjoy looking at or want to be around, but I don’t bash their skulls in and throw them away because of.

Futhermore, what I find even more egregious is how women can kill children at will with impunity. However, the moment a man decides that he doesn’t want to take care of a child he is deemed a deadbeat and consequently hunted by the state for child support. Don’t get me wrong, I do not condone a man stepping away from his responsibilities as a father. What I am stating is that there should be no double standard here. In addition to garnished wages, even those fathers who are not financially able to support their children in the child support system suffer as they are routinely rounded up into the prison industrial complex for not being able to pay.

“So-called “black leaders” praise this health “disparity” as an empowering choice. There’s nothing empowering about an industry targeting the most historically dehumanized segment of the population with death.”

Now, I do concur with the sentiment that having a child should be planned. However, with that in mind, things rarely go as drawn up. Many people have wound up pregnant even while taking preventative measures. I for one, have had this happen to me. Unfortunately, those instances for me resulted in miscarriage. This, among other reasons, is why I oppose birth control. In my opinion, it is ineffective; and from what I have observed in the masses of teenage girls and young women, it wreaks havoc upon their physical form. A better, more safer option would be to exercise discipline; whether that be practicing abstinence, blowing stacks on prophylactics, or the infamous pull-out method if thine game be strong.

In conclusion, no matter how much my child’s mother and I disagreed with one another, no matter how much she hated my guts, no matter how little we had, I never suggested terminating Aden. And I applaud her moreso for her courage and resilience in handling such a stressful predicament and bringing our baby into this world with a smile on her face.

Another thing that bores me through is how can we have the audacity to scream #blacklivesmatter, yet are damn ‘nere silent about the mass murder of hundred thousands of black children yearly. Our silence is complicity and propagation of black genocide. 

Psalms 127:3 – “Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” – KJV

Abortion Statistics

So when you have the exaltation of the autonomous self. “What I want matters most! What I desire matters most! Forget sacrifice! Forget hurting! Forget the long road! I want what I want and when that collides in a society that says throw it away and get a new one. You get abortion on demand…” – Matt Chandler


One thought on “Black Fatherhood, pt. II

  1. […] my position. However, I do not subscribe nor will I condone their lifestyle. As I have said before, my moral compass is not driven by religious zeal or political affiliation. This is from my own frame of reference. Of course, I will probably be labeled a “homophobic […]


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